Necessary pain

I asked for this. 

I asked for her to not be able to ignore the truth, and that means I asked for her to hurt. Or to hurt more. She's been hurting all along.  She eases the pain by blaming it on everyone and everything except the bully. But this can't keep going on, and the only way it will change is when she finally has to take action on the source. So she has to experience the truth.

I wish there was another way. I have tried every way I can think of - even the ones I knew wouldn't work, just in case. All I have left is for her to have no choice other than to recognize the truth. That includes recognizing that it's not just happening to her, and that she is contributing to the pain of others by letting things continue. But, Mother, this needs to be the pain of growth. The pain that leads to healthy, effective action. That we can all look back one day and honestly say everything is better after the change. 

She's not easy to work with when she's ignoring the truth, but I love her. I tried to do it other ways. Now, I just don't want her to be lost in the pain. There's so much more I wish I knew how to put into words. All I have is that I only wish for what is necessary, and I guess that's going to be up to her. She may not believe that guidance would come her way, but she can still follow the guidance without fully understanding it.